CONTROL YOUR EMOTION DURING DIFFICULT CONVERSATION
WHAT IS ANGER?
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.
Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems.
Feelings of anger arise due to how we interpret and react to certain situations.
Everyone has their own triggers for what makes them angry, but some common ones include situations in which we feel threatened, attacked, frustrated or powerless.
Other causes of anger include memories of traumatic or enraging events and worrying about personal problems.
You also have unique anger triggers, based on what you were taught to expect from yourself, others and the world around you. Your personal history feeds your reactions to anger, too.
Losing your patience, feeling as if your opinion or efforts aren't appreciated, and injustice such as missing a promotion at work or relationship difficulties.
A problem caused by another person such as cancelling plans. An event like bad traffic or getting in a car accident.
There are three types of anger which help shape how we react in a situation that makes us angry.
These are:
· Passive Aggression
· Open Aggression
· Assertive Anger
What is Passive Aggression?
People with passive-aggressive behavior express their negative feelings subtly through their actions instead of handling them directly. This creates a separation between what they say and what they do.
Some common signs of passive-aggressive behavior include: bitterness and hostility toward other peoples' requests.
What is Open Aggression?
On the other hand, many people have a tendency to lash out in anger and rage, becoming physically or verbally aggressive and can often times hurt themselves or others. This is called Open Aggression.... Open aggression comes from a need to be in control.
What is Assertive Anger?
It means thinking before you speak, being confident in how you say it, yet open and flexible to the 'other side'. It means being patient; not raising your voice; communicating how you are feeling emotionally, and really trying to understand what others are feeling.
Is being angry a choice?
We make a choice to be angry. Humans have a large cortex to think with. Humans can, and often do, transcend instinctual urges for something better. That makes anger a choice for most of us, most of the time.
If you believe you can change your response, then the answer is yes. Anger is an important primary feeling which indicates danger and that some of our needs are not being met, yet it remains one of the most undesirable, controversial and one of the least understood emotions.
Can anger be cured?
Anger is not something you can get rid of..... When it gets out of hand, though, anger can become destructive and lead to all sorts of personal problems.
While you can't cure anger, you can manage the intensity and effect it has upon you.
Prescription and Over-the-Counter Medications
Antidepressants such as Prozac, Celexa and Zoloft are commonly prescribed for anger issues.
These drugs do not specifically target anger within the body, but they do have a calming effect that can support control of rage and negative emotion.
Anger is a response to fear -- a response to a perceived or real threat. Anger is normal. Anger feels like fearlessness, but it isn't. The fearlessness of anger is misleading, because anger is fear based.
Is anger a mental illness?
Many things can trigger anger, including stress, family problems, and financial issues.
For some people, anger is caused by an underlying disorder, such as alcoholism or depression.
Anger itself isn't considered a disorder, but anger is a known symptom of several mental health conditions.
How do I control my anger and fear?
Manage emotions during stressful situations by breathing correctly.
Deep and steady breathing through the nose with a relaxed rib cage is one of the best ways to lower stress in the body, and strong medicine for anxiety, fear and anger.
Deep breathing sends a message to your brain to calm down and relax.
Does anger lead to hatred?
Fear is the path to the dark side…fear leads to anger… anger leads to hate… hate leads to suffering.
How do you release anger in your body?
Study found that being able to express your anger in a healthy ways can even make you less likely to develop heart disease.
How to manage if you are angry:
· Take deep breath
· Mindfully move your body
· Check your perspective
· Express your frustration
· Defuse anger with humor
· Change your surroundings
Intermittent explosive disorder (IED) is an impulse-control disorder characterized by sudden episodes of unwarranted anger.
The disorder is typified by hostility, impulsivity, and recurrent aggressive outbursts. People with IED essentially “explode” into a rage despite a lack of apparent provocation or reason.
What type of doctor treats anger issues?
Psychiatrists. These professionals are medical doctors who specialize in the treatment of mental, emotional, or behavioral problems. A psychiatrist can prescribe medications.
Some helpful tips:
Take one cup of grape juice and add half a teaspoon each of cumin or jeera, fennel or saunfand sandalwood powder or chandan at least 1 cup after you drink might settle angry feelings in the body and also heal any burning sensations in the stomach.
Angry people tend to be impatient people. Often they have trouble waiting for others to finish what they are saying. And even when they are able to let the other person talk, they might not actually be listen but just pretending to listen.
Anger is a negative feeling state that is typically associated with hostile thoughts, physiological arousal and manipulative behaviors.
It usually develops in response to the unwanted actions of another person who is perceived to be disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful.
Are you easily irritated or frustrated, and find yourself feeling angry more often than you probably should?
If so, then you are like millions of people who deal with anger issues. Anger is a natural reaction that tells us when something isn't right.
When experienced in excess, however, unresolved anger can result in health problems including depression, anxiety, high blood pressure, heart disease, and more. It's important to deal with anger in a healthy way before it can harm you or those you love.
This article will cover different reasons for anger, and tools you can use to help manage your anger in a healthy and productive way.
The Bible says about anger
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
Anger is not the most comfortable emotion to feel. It also may be the most abhorred emotional state in spiritual contexts.
Anger is an emotion like any other, and we have as much right to feel it as sadness or joy. Actually, we have about as much “right” to feel any emotion as we do to hunger or thirst.
Many things can trigger anger, including stress, family problems, and financial issues.
For some people, anger is caused by an underlying disorder, such as alcoholism or depression.
Anger itself isn't considered a disorder, but anger is a known symptom of several mental health conditions.
Beloved, never revenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written,
“Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
Proverbs 14:29
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.
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